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Psychiatrist Dr. Vasil Urumov to FACTS: Why society exploded with Nemo's victory after we had Conchita Wurst  - 1

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- The winning “Eurovision“ Swiss Nemo is heterosexual. Has a girlfriend – girl, live together in Germany. What makes him pretend to be different…
- I can't say what drives him because I don't know him... As I said earlier, when it comes to social gender and belonging, it's about subjective feelings, perceptions and ideas. It can indeed be defined as non-binary. There is also the possibility that it is simply a stage trick to attract attention, points and popularity, since in recent years the topic of “gender” is current.
To be honest, I don't know why the public was so excited about his victory, as already 10 years ago, Eurovision had a drag queen winner - Conchita Wurst, a man with a beard, wearing a dress and makeup.

Against this background, it is quite strange to me why the Bulgarians are outraged, since we have Wurst, a native of Kostinbrod, the chalga singer Azis (for an even longer time), who also dressed in dresses, wore heavy evening make-up and bleached her locks and hair.

This did not prevent him from becoming a hit on the Bulgarian scene and at discotheques and being loved by the public. The Russians have Philipp Kirkorov (who is also Bulgarian).

As I said earlier, often in order to break through in showbiz, you have to create a scandal, attract attention, whether positive or negative, bark the dogs, be “in the mouth” (as the poet sang it), sometimes figuratively, sometimes literally.

It makes an impression on me that in this kind of contests more and more the focus is on the scandal and the sensation than on the quality itself - song, text, voice, melody, etc.

This is what irritated me. In my opinion, which is also of course subjective, there were much better performances and songs than Nemovote that should have won. But here, too, time will tell and weed out the talented performers from those who simply scandalize. After all, you have to have a voice, talent, charisma to grab the audience's attention, win their hearts and stay at the top of the charts for years. Otherwise, you become another “miracle in three days”. History is full of such, but who remembers them... However, we all remember Sir Elton John, Freddie Mercury, David Bowie, George Michael and many others. We don't remember them because they are from the LGBT spectrum, but because of their unique talent and creativity.

- People kind of automatically assumed he was gay or transgender because he was dressed in a way that didn't “fit his gender”. What a personal display this is…
- Here we need an explanation, with which perhaps some people will be completely confused. A gay man is most often a cis man of homosexual orientation, that is, a man who identifies as a man and is sexually attracted primarily to men. Transgender can be a man or woman who does not identify as their biologically assigned sex. They can have homo or heterosexual attraction. I'm not going to elaborate further because it might get very confusing for the readers, and I'll have to pour myself a glass of wine.

This is not so much a matter of personal appearance, but rather - as we said above, a subjective feeling. And sexual attraction to certain visual or personality traits is just that - attraction.

For most people who are of a standard sexual orientation, this can seem strange or frightening, precisely because they do not understand that it is a spectrum. Facing this kind of difference can make them feel insecure about their own sexuality or frustrate them, especially if they have more rigid ideas about it. The counter-movements also start from there and we start dividing into “camps”'. I'm not just talking about sexual orientation here, but in general. Probably the same was the reaction of society about 100 years ago when women started wearing pants.

It is noticeable that in recent years we live in the era of extremes.

We are divided into extreme liberals or conservatives, godless atheists or religious fanatics, Russophiles and Russophobes, etc. And very often, in fact, almost always, the situation has many nuances that we miss when we “split“ or we only see in black and white. To be honest, I find both extremes annoying. Ultra-woke-ultra-liberals are too politically correct and self-absorbed, with a surgically removed sense of humor, a sickly inflated sense of self-relevance, and an irritating display of moral superiority. Ultra-nationalists leave an extremely unpleasant feeling of neo-Nazism, racism, xenophobia and primitivism. In both cases, they do not tolerate someone else's opinion, different from their own, and adequate, rational arguments. They become steadfast in their beliefs, sometimes even reaching the point of delusional conviction. This type of extreme repels and, by the feedback mechanism, generates even more extremes.
That's why I think it's important to judge people by their qualities, not by their political or sexual affiliation. That's why I say: "You have every right to be yourself, as long as you don't interfere with others. But my respect? You have to deserve it."