Supporters of infidelity began to define themselves as “sweet lovers” and created an online community to try to justify their behavior, writes The I.
A community of “cake eaters” has appeared on the Reddit platform, which already includes more than eight thousand people. Community members are “generally happily married, having regular sex with their husbands, no plans to divorce, but still enjoying having sex with other people”. They compare infidelity to sweets to reduce the degree of social condemnation for those who cannot limit their sex life until marriage.
„I love my wife and my children. I have no desire to leave them, but I crave more sexual satisfaction than I get at home. I don't think my wife and I are sexually compatible. I had low self-esteem in my youth and didn't go through much before I got married at 21. I miss the excitement of first dates and really enjoy meeting new people. I just discovered the term “sweet lover“ and I felt it sounded much better than “con“. “The love of sweets” allowed me to save my marriage and family. "I know it's technically wrong, but I love my wife and I don't want to destroy our family," explained James, 42, who works in business logistics.
In the growing online community, there are many people who believe that “falling in” is a more neutral expression compared to “infidelity”. In addition, some participants concluded that there was some kind of altruism in their behavior as they maintained relationships while simultaneously satisfying their needs. However, there are those who do not try to hide from themselves and others the fact of betrayal of their permanent partner. The latter become part of the community to better understand themselves and the reasons why they have side affairs.